This morning I was trying to plan something to work on with one of my regular students with anger issues when I decided to expand on a lesson I already teach in my anger management groups. This student has a lot going on at home and we've already been working on the windows activity, but I wanted to get to the root of his anger. We talked about the anger mask (the activity from Seeing Red: An Anger Management and Peacemaking Curriculum for Kids). I love this book for so many reasons! After showing him my anger mask (made out of a paper plate), we made a list of some "unpleasant feelings" on the board: discouraged, jealous, embarassed, hurt, scared, worried, etc. Next, I gave him his pre-prepared foldable in which to draw his anger mask on the front. I explained to him that sometimes when we're angry, we're actually feeling something else on the inside. I give him several examples, such as someone calling you a name....you may show your angry face, but actually you might be feeling hurt. After drawing his anger mask, we pick out some of the other unpleasant feelings that we may be actually feeling on the inside, and draw them inside the foldable. It ended up being a great visual (see mine below) and started some great conversations about some of the things causing this little guy to be angry. I've posted pictures of mine below, but didn't want to show his due to confidentiality, but it was awesome! I'll definitely be doing this activity again!
How do you "dig deeper" to figure out the root of a child's feelings?