We then talk about what we can do to try to make it better (saying kind words, saying "I'm sorry", saying 'just kidding"). As they do this, I unfold the heart. Eventually it is spread back out, but you can still see the wrinkles. We talk about how we all have these wrinkles or scars on our heart from things others have said to us, and sometimes they last forever. I then share a story from when I was a child where I was picked on, and how I've never forgotten it. We then talk about how it is important to try to make things better if we say something hurtful, but its even better if we don't say it all.
After the lesson, we read the story Roses are Pink, Your Feet Really Stink by Diane deGroat and make connections to the heart lesson and the story. This is one of my favorites because the kids really see the connection and love the connection to valentine's day and handing out valentines to people. I leave the wrinkled heart in the classroom to serve as a reminder to use kind words.